Coping with loss.

 Now, let's not dive right into emotional baggage and shit let's go on slowly. 

Coping, what is it really? To "cope" with something, well dictionaries describe it as 'to deal with something difficult efficiently'  but what I don't get is how can you "deal" with something that's left a hole in your heart, an open position in your life.

Coping with loss can be interpreted in many ways , like coping
with loss of a valuable , coping with loss of marks or grades etc etc , but the one I'm talking / writing about is, coping with loss of a loved one. 

Again, I do not still completely understand the word "coping".

This word is very common and often used in daily lives quite a few time, like when we say: coping with this week's assignment is really hard or he can cope up with stress quite well, now here cope makes sense because dealing with office work requires efficiency but how can you "cope" or "deal" with the Loss of your family, friend, acquaintance or maybe even your dog. 

Does "cope" mean you forget it with time and not think about it, does it mean you just go on with your days and not revisit the incident, to me it doesn't, does it to you? 

Me still being naive and not knowing what it actually means at 18 thought coping is just accepting the facts and taking responsibility and not letting the incident take over you , keeping your emotions in control , keeping your cool , being level-headed, taking care of the ones who still haven't accepted the facts, and cruising forward. 

Thats the coping mechanism I thought everyone has and is universal and that's the one I adapted.

But isn't it funny that even after I "coped" with it I still couldn't get it out my head , there isn't a moment I'm not reminded about the incident or its experience , in fact it feels like it happened in a blink of an eye , like I still haven't been able to absorb and experience the pain and sorrow just yet , feels like there's still an episode left . Did I just contradict my statement of having coped with it? I guess I did.